Consider the Bonobos. Their use of sex is nothing related to procreation. They do it whenever, with whomever, to create bonding, to release tension. No fuss, no shame. Contrary to the Bonobos, most human cultures have elaborate prescriptions on the proper times, ways, relationships that can welcome sex. Even talking about it, expressing desires for it is under heavy control. Traditionally mainly for women, but now also for the men: expressing desire for sex is dangerous territory. In this condition of sex under control, we can have flirting: softly shifting the threshold of intimacy, half-seen, half-noticed, allowing both interpretations simultaneously (she wants something / she wants nothing). Flirt is biology disguised as culture, the dangerous disguised as harmless, the desire disguised as conversation. This grey zone is actually not necessarily a bad place. Rather, a place of lightness, of pleasure and playful interactions.
So please share with us how you flirt. Do you flirt at all? What is flirt for you? How you like to be flirted to? Where do you do it? With whom? With whom would you like to do it? What is it that you like in it? What is it that you fear?
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